Get Him To Commit With An Ultimatum?

Marry me or else...How many times have you heard stories of women trying to get him to commit by telling him that he needs to make a decision and choose to marry her or she is gone.

Most of us women think that this approach makes sense. But, this really puts a lot of pressure on your boyfriend. In most cases it will drive him away and you won't get what you are hoping for.

If you have been in a relationship for a very long time, or you are not in your twenties anymore you may feel like the clock is ticking. This is something that is truly understandable. Who wants to stay single forever?

Plus you may be wondering if you are wasting valuable time that could be spent on someone else who would be willing to propose. Why should you wait and be patient if in the end he is never going to 'pop the question'.

One thing is for sure, a threat like this can kill a relationship and scare your boyfriend off for good. This kind of threat is a lot for a man to take on.

You need to find out a way to gently move him in the direction of asking you that question. You can get him to commit, but it has to be done right. What I mean is you don't want to manipulate, or force a proposal.

True love and a happy marriage has to start with an honest beginning. Yes you may have to learn some little ways to help him head in the direction of a marriage proposal. But you want it to be authentic and true.

When is it okay to give an ultimatum?

Well, it is okay if you are confident in your position. Are you truly ready for whatever answer you may get? If you say "now or never" and he says "never" are you ready to move on.

To stay in a relationship after you have given one or many ultimatums to your boyfriend is just not a good idea. You will have given up your credibility and any leverage you may have had. The playing field is no longer level.

Remember, you want to be in a relationship and marriage that is wanted by both of you. Ultimatums will ultimately end the relationship. You want your marriage to last. If he is the "one" then learn how to nudge him properly and things will fall into place.

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