When You Want Him to Change - Reasons Why He Doesn't Propose

Your man, like everyone else in the world, just wants to be loved and accepted for who he is. It's a basic human desire. But if he doesn't get a chance to be who HE is, or every conversation is about how he needs to change, how do you think that makes him feel?

Men who marry -- get married because they want to be with that one woman because of the way she makes him feel about himself. How he feels when he's around her -- is what makes him want to commit.

Ask yourself if you really love him for who he is -- or if you just want to get married because your clock's ticking. If you love him, but want to change him, this ultimately comes through in the unspoken communication that we all share -- especially with those we are closest to. A man proposes because he wants to be with the ONE woman who makes him feel special, makes him feel wanted, makes him feel loved -- for who he is -- and even IN SPITE of who he is.

If you're on a high and mighty agenda to change him, to make him into something he's not -- while he may go along with the program for a while, eventually, he'll get the real message -- that he isn't good enough as he is -- and leave.

Imagine yourself in his shoes, just for a minute. Ask yourself, would you want to be with a man who constantly finds fault with who you are, what you do, and how you behave? Answer honestly. OK, then, why are you trying to make him change? Were you really attracted to him or was it something else -- something he could do for you? Be honest with yourself.

You may think that you need to change him from commitment-phobic to marriage-ready, but forcing a man to feel something he is not feeling only ends up in disaster. It's important for him to come to you on his own and forcing him because *YOU* need him to marry you right now, right away, just won't work. Remember -- an ultimatum is really a veiled threat.

Don't give him an ultimatum unless you are ready for the truth. When you force a man with an ultimatum -- you may not like the results.

But if you REALLY love him and want to marry him, because you want to be with him -- then you need to learn how to be with him -- which in all honesty is simply being who you really are, the woman he fell in love with in the first place.

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