So, you met the right guy. He is wonderful. You're in love, and everything is telling you it's time to move forward. Maybe you have already been seeing the same man for a year or two. You keep waiting for that wonderful moment when he proposes, but it just never seems to happen. You are trying to figure out why he is not ready for a commitment and what to do to get him there. Be careful to NOT make the mistakes that are going to delay your goal.
Many women get frustrated as time goes on. The relationship is good, he is the one. So, what is holding him up? Actually, there could be many reasons, or there could just be one. Men are not emotionally made like women. Women know what they want, and they know when they find him. Unfortunately, men are not always ready when we are. So, what holds them up from being ready when we are?
Believe it or not, men feel with their gut. They feel with their heart as well, but it's their gut that directs them to the important decisions. Men want a woman who "gets them." They want a woman they can open up to, express their feelings, thoughts, and dreams. If, for any reason, they feel they can not do that with you, the chance of you getting a commitment out of them is slim.
Women plan their weddings from the time they are little girls. Men do not. Men however, grow up, and although it may be a subconscious thing, know what they want their life partner to be. If they are fooled the first time, it is very likely they won't be fooled the second. So, women need to understand that it is a feeling with men, and not an actual conscious thought. When a woman feels right to them, they will do everything in their power to keep her, and make her his life partner.
Without hurting your feelings, stop making it all about what you want, and find out what he wants. If you don't, your chances of actually securing that guy are slim. He needs to know you want to connect with the "real him." If he does not feel that connection, he will not move any further forward than he is right now. Men want someone who is on the same page, who admire them for who they really are. You need to learn there is the guy they show everyone else, and then there is the guy they show to the love of their life. These men are two entirely different people, and if he can't be comfortable showing that sensative side to you, he will not commit to you.
The most important thing you can do, is to get to the inner man. Let him know you are on the same page, and that you get him. If you can do that, your relationship can start moving forward the way you want it to, without being pushy, manipulative, or issuing ultimatums.
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