You've been seeing this guy for a couple of months now- your chemistry is undeniable, you love being around each other and he even engages you in a public display of affection. The signs are so obvious- he is into you. Everything is smooth sailing but the only problem is you are clueless whether or not he wants to take the relationship to the next level. It's totally justifiable why you want more. Nobody can afford to waste time in a relationship that is going nowhere.
Yes, there are hundreds or even thousands of articles and self-help books about making a guy commit but most of them use manipulation. Manipulating a guy to get him to commit to you is not a good idea. I don't care what the experts say, I completely despise the suggestion. It is clearly not how you want to start a serious, loving relationship. If you are going to use manipulation to get what you want then it becomes a regular practice in the relationship. Do you really want to be in a relationship where you have to use manipulation just for the guy to do what you want?
You have to realize that a man's willingness to commit is not a result of a woman's lies and deceit. You don't have to pretend to be someone else to make a man fall in love with you. The mask would have to come off down the track anyway so why bother pretending to be someone you're not? Finding a person who loves you for who you are is very rare and each one of us wants the same thing, right? Just be yourself and let the guy fall for who you really are. You need to do the same which means that you have to accept and love the guy for who he is and not for who you want him to be. If you want a guy to stick around longer then you have to make him feel that you like the "real" him and he is very much allowed to be silly around you. Guys love the feeling of being themselves around a woman. If you are able to make him feel secure about himself, he is going to realize that you are a keeper and trust me; he will never let you go.
If you really like the guy and you are certain that you want a long-term relationship with him then make an effort to find out about his hobbies or interests. If he loves baseball, it wouldn't hurt if you learn the rules of the game so you can sit down and enjoy the game with him. Just don't pretend to be a big fan if you aren't because that is deception. It'll be enough for a man to know that you learned the rules of his favorite game to please him. That will definitely make him feel special.
Another way on how to get him to commit without manipulation is by being loyal to him. You have to reassure him that you are the kind of woman he can trust. A guy will never commit unless he is certain that he is the only guy you are dating. Yes, you can say that they are very territorial. But if you want to ruin your chances of having a great relationship, go ahead and date a few men and do the roulette method to pick a guy. I believe that this is the fastest way on how to drive any relationship to its end. Being in a relationship is pretty simple and I live by one rule- "One should not treat others in ways that one would not like to be treated". It makes sense, right? Whatever you do, always think how you would feel if it's being done to you.
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