How to Get Him to Be Exclusive

If you've been dating a guy for a couple of weeks or even months now and he hasn't mentioned anything about you two being exclusive, it's time for you to bring your A game to the relationship. The most important thing is to know whether the guy is serious or just fooling around. But as a woman, it's hard to be in a situation like this because we are taught to wait patiently until the guy is ready to have "the talk". More often than not, the reason why a guy hasn't established exclusivity yet is because they see your relationship as casual. It's even worse if he is still seeing other women. Maybe he's not ready for a long-term commitment. So how do you get him to be exclusive without scaring him away?

Unfortunately, this is where a lot of us don't have any idea how things work with men especially if we are talking about those who scare easily. The problem with men is that they dread having a serious talk, they hate confrontation, enough said. If you start bugging him to define your relationship or if you constantly drop hints that you want him to be more serious, instead of speeding up the switch from casual to serious, you might end up getting the opposite result.

The very first thing you have to observe is how he acts around you. If you've had your share of relationships before, you are one to most likely know if the guy is acting like your boyfriend. Does he engage you on a public display of affection? Is he always eager to see you? Does he make time for you? Does he make an effort to surprise you once in a while with your favorite ice cream? If the answer is yes to all those questions then you are headed to the direction that you desire.

You have to find a way on how he can tell you whether he is seeing someone else or not. You can do it in a not-so-obvious way and say something like "You probably have a bunch of girls lined up to have a date with you". No matter what you say, make it sound flirty and not demanding or judgmental. If he tells you that he is not seeing someone else then this is the perfect time to ask him why. At this point, there is a big chance that he will tell you that he's already found someone and that is you.

What if his answer is not the one you've been longing to hear? If a guy tells you that he is casually dating and he can't promise you exclusivity then it's time to reconsider your options. Are you willing to wait for things to happen or are you ready to move on and keep looking? I can't stress enough how critical it is to know why you should stay in a relationship. If you are not comfortable with how things are going and you don't see them changing for the better anytime soon then there is no need for you to keep trying. You can't punish yourself just because you are dating a guy who won't commit.

If you think you can't afford to waste time anymore then it's reasonable that you engage your man into a "talk" if you want to get him to be exclusive. If you are going to do this make sure you have a back-up plan just in case he says NO. Are you ready to face the consequences if things don't turn out the way you expected?