Relationships: Teach Him To Be The Man You Want Him To Be - (Exercise, Discipline And Affection)

What if Cesar Milan, The Dog Whisperer has it right. Could applying his principles to your own relationship allow you to tame your wild dog of a man? Could "Exercise, Discipline, and Affection" be all you need to create a relationship that is loving and satisfying. Let's see...

Exercise. In Cesar's world, Exercise is critical for a dog to burn off their excess energy. Exercise in this case isn't just about exercising your man...it's about exercising you, too.

To quote the immortal words of Elle Woods in the movie Legally Blond, "She couldn't have killed her husband. Exercise creates endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't shoot their husbands. They just don't!" If you're happy, all of those quirks that your man has that bothers you now, may not bother when you're happy. Being happy makes you more attractive, makes you look younger and makes you more fun to be around.

Discipline. For Cesar, Discipline is about creating "rules, boundaries and limitations." Enough said. It's your responsibility to teach your man about acceptable behavior. They don't show up knowing this stuff. If your man is doing something you don't like, kindly and gently teach him what is acceptable. Rubbing a dog's nose in his accident on the carpet won't keep it from happening again, just like yelling and screaming won't teach your man the right way to behave. Do your training early and do it quickly. As my friend Joseph says, "Kill the monster while it's a baby." It's always easier to break a baby-size habit, than it is to break a gigantic Godzilla-sized habit

Disciplining your man may be the hardest part for you. When your man looks at you and says "I'm Sorry," you're going to want to give in and let the bad behavior go unchecked. No discipline in the beginning means you're going to end up yanked all over the place later because you didn't teach your man how to behave.

Affection. The third part of the formula is Affection. Ask yourself this question, "If I showed my man the same kind of affection that my pet shows me, would my relationship be better?" I know that my pet's unconditional love is a great feeling to me.

Now greeting your man at the door every day with your tail wagging might be a bit extreme. Just show him in simple ways that you love and appreciate him. But be prepared, you may get some strange looks if this is new behavior for you. That's ok. He'll get used to it and seek out other ways to elicit this same response from you. Now everyone is happy!

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5 Mistakes That Will Prevent Your Boyfriend From Ever Proposing

Have you been with the man you love for a long time, but he has yet to pop the question? Are you thinking about giving him an ultimatum? If so, you better read this now before he leaves you for the hot blonde you work with. Despite the fact I work primarily with men and dating issues related to men, I've encountered this question from women often - normally whenever I tell a female what I do for a living. I could never articulate the answer very well, so I decided to interview a couple of female dating coaches. These women are all intelligent and accomplished dating coaches who specialize in helping women naturally convince (with NO actual convincing) their boyfriends to commit and pop the question. This article will focus on the number one mistake that results in couples breaking up over marriage, and tips on how to ease your man in the right direction in a short amount of time. It's not what you are thinking! Also, pay special attention to mistake number 5!

Mistake 1: Stop being so nice. Women often think that cooking, playing house wife, and being overly sweet will result in reciprocal behavior. Actually, men want to marry a woman that is strong, will be able to handle the tough times, kids, and all the downturns that come with life. A recent study showed that the vast majority of men feel that confident women are in "short supply." Do not be scared to show him you have your own life and you radiate confidence. Take it from a man who has dated countless women, nothing urges me to commit monogamously like a woman that has dignity and pride in herself - rather I'm in the picture or not. Go out with your friends, pursue your career, and spend time with your family. He doesn't have to be invited to every girl's night out. Let him see you can hold your own in this world - with or WITHOUT him. In-fact, nothing lights a fire under his ass like knowing you do not need him.

Mistake 2: Stop bringing it up. If you mentioned marriage once, then he heard you loud and clear and it is engraved in his frontal cortex. If you continue to bring it up, it will only add unnecessary pressure on the relationship. This also includes making sure your friends and family does not mention it around him. If you guys have been dating for a long time, it is commonplace for sisters and mothers to ask, "so, when are you two tying the knot?" Make sure your family and friends know not to bring the subject up around him. He knows that if they mention it, it is only because YOU mentioned it to them.

Mistake 3: Is there a recurring argument that pops up cyclically? Perhaps financial issues, living arrangements, sexual performance, etc., are common examples. These issues have the potential to turn into a vicious cycle. It comes up maybe every week, maybe every year. Arguing about the same thing multiple times implants in his brain that a life with you wills continuous arguing. Maybe this is the only reason he hasn't popped the question. Show him you are mature enough to let something go and to NEVER bring it up again. So what he flirted with your co-worker at the Christmas party 2 years ago - DROP IT or drop him!

Mistake 4: Let him know he is not responsible for your happiness - even if he is. Many psychologists have written papers about this very fact. If a man feels he is responsible for your happiness, he will feel pressure. Pressure equals a breakup if you have not noticed by now. Men tend to feel at ease when he doesn't have to be fully responsible for someone else's happiness. When a man sees you are happy with him but you can be just as happy having nothing to do with him, that's when he won't want to leave your side. Next time he cancels last minute plans to watch a chic flick with you, laugh and say "OK." Then call a girlfriend and go out with her. When you get home later that night, initiate sex and "blow" his mind. He will love you for not getting mad over a silly movie. Plus, he will respect that you are grown enough to be responsible for your own happiness.

Mistake 5: Should you use an ultimatum? Using an ultimatum to get that sought after wedding ring is like committing relationship suicide. If you feel the need to present your boyfriend with an ultimatum concerning your relationship, it MUST be authentic! Even if authentic, marriage is not necessarily going to be the result. When it comes to women who so badly want to be engaged to their boyfriend, ultimatums are a commonplace. The waiting game drives desperation and desperation can lead to threats! Yes, ultimatum is just a fancy word for "threat". Women who throw marriage ultimatums at their boyfriends obviously do not realize that this kind of pressure and "all or nothing" attitude commonly results in the demise of the relationship. Regardless, women want to know if an ultimatum is ever acceptable. According to those dating coaches I interviewed, it is only applicable when you are ready to deal with the truth and act on the response! If you give your boyfriend a "now or never" lecture, you best be prepared to pack your bags and leave if he comes back with a "never" response. Staying in a relationship after he says "never" will only result in your losing all credibility and leverage in the relationship. Bottom Line: Only give an ultimatum if you're ready to hear the truth and are willing to act on it, whatever the response may be.

Start implementing these tips right away. You must do these before you can move on to the second part - which is offensively convincing him (without actually convincing him or talking directly about the subject with him) to believe in his subconscious mind that you are the one and that he can not live without you by his side!

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What To Do When He Pulls Away From You

Are you involved in a relationship and you feel like your man is beginning to pull away from you? Are you wondering what to do when he pulls away? Do you feel like everything was going along nicely in your relationship and you had finally found your soul-mate, when all of a sudden he pulls away from you for no apparent reason?

Does this describe your situation to a tee? If this is the case, then rest assure that you are not alone. There are countless women out there who are in the exact same situation and are at a total loss as far as what to do when it seems like their relationship has taken a turn for the worst.

So many questions might be running through your mind like is he losing interest in me, does he not love me anymore, or is he interested in someone else? These types of questions can drive you crazy especially if you don't have any answers to go with them.

Women Like To Talk Things Out

The natural response for any woman when her man pulls away from her is to try and get closer to him. We will call or text him even more and ask him what is bothering him. We will try our damndest to get inside his head to try and figure out what is going on. This can prove to be a big mistake and only make the situation worse, and will result in him pulling away even further. That is the last thing you want to do.

While women like to talk it out when they are having problems, men are the complete opposite. They like to work it out on their own. If you keep asking your man what is wrong he may not necessarily answer because he knows it will be followed by more questions that he may not be ready to answer.

There could be many reasons why he is trying to pull away or it might be you who just perceives that he is trying to pull away. Maybe he just wants to spend more time with the guys. But whatever the case may be, you have to know how to handle the situation correctly, so that it works in your favor and you don't aggreviate it further.

Pulling Away Comes Natural To Men

For men, pulling away is a very natural thing for them to do. When they fall in love or they feel like the relationship is moving to the next level, they might feel vulnerable so they at some point will pull back as a way of holding onto their sense of who they are. What they are really doing is identifying with who they are, their life and most importantly their independence. What they are doing is trying to strike a balance between the relationship they are in with you, and their sense of self and their independence.

The reason that he might be feeling that vulnerability right now is because he has come to the realization that he is falling in love with you and that the relationship is moving to the next level. Instead of popping the question, he might panic because he realizes that at this stage of the relationship, you may want some form of a commitment.

He on the other hand, might be quite comfortable with the way things are and as a result, is not interested in taking it to the next level. This is unfair to you, especially if you have been with him for many years. Most likely, he is feeling overwhelmed by his feelings for you and the whole relationship.

Give Him Some Breathing Space

The first thing that you need to do is give him some space because obviously there is something really bothering him and he doesn't want to talk about it. Don't worry, you won't lose him even though it might feel like that is what is going to happen if you don't grab hold of him. By giving him his space, while he deals with his fears of commitment, you at the same time will be able to try and put your feelings into perspective.

By giving him some space, you will be giving him some time away from you so that he can sort out his feelings towards the relationship. When he pulls away from you what he is trying to tell you is that he needs some space and time to think. I know that this will be very painful and difficult time for you to handle because you won't know if he is coming back or gone for good. But I think by giving him some breathing space, you will be allowing him to realize how much you do mean to him and that he can't live without you.

Time Away Makes The Relationship Stronger

With time he might realize that his world is incomplete without you and that you are the one that he wants to spend the rest of his life with. That time away from you might help him to come to those realizations. Once he sorts out his feelings and gets his life in order, then he might be ready to make that commitment that you have long been waiting for.

Understanding what to do when he pulls away from you will help you to understand the process that he is going through and why he is doing this in the first place. If you are aware of what is he going through and you don't put undue pressure on him because you are afraid you might lose him, then he might actually be more drawn to you because you are giving him his space and not making demands on him when he needs some time to himself.

So the key here is to not act too needy towards him. Let him know that you can handle this time apart no matter how helpless you might be feeling.

In the long run this time away from each other might actually make the relationship much stronger because both of you will have given yourself time to sort through any doubts you might be having about the relationship.

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When He Says He Is Not Ready For A Relationship - What Does He Really Mean?

What does a man mean when he says that he is not ready for a relationship?

This one is pretty straightforward. Whenever a man says he is not ready for a relationship or to get into something more serious, then believe him. Take him at his word. If he says that, he is most likely telling the truth and being up front and honest with you about what it is that he really wants from you.

To be clearer, it means two things:

1. He is not ready for a relationship with anyone right now. This is very possible and I have heard guys say that when they were extremely busy with work or studies that they made up their minds not to get involved with anyone for a period of time to focus on whatever goals they were try to achieve. They are not interested in being distracted by the demands of a committed relationship because they have too much on their plates. That's straight from the horse's mouth when I did some digging on the issue.

2. He is not ready for a relationship right now with YOU - again straight from the horse's mouth. For whatever reason, he thinks that the two of you are not compatible. Now this is nothing to get upset or stressed out about. It does NOT mean that there is something wrong with you just because he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. Just like you have your preferences, he has his.

I'm sure that there are guys that you started to date or hang out with and you knew almost right away or after a few dates that they would not be compatible with you for some reason.

Or you are simply not interested enough in them to take the next step with them, whether that is in the form of more dates or in the form of getting into something more serious with them. All of us know outright or subconsciously what we are looking for and when we find what we are looking for in a partner, then that's it, a relationship is born.

Now you know what he means when he says that he is not ready for a relationship. Another variation of this is that he is not looking for a relationship right now. It's the same thing.

But the real question that you should now be asking is, now that I know what he means, what am I going to do with that information? What does it mean for YOU?

This is what it means:

1. If you were hoping to pursue something more serious with him, he has told you that that is not what he sees in the future for you two so great, now you know to keep him as a friend or a contact depending on what business he is into. You never know.

This is good because it means that you aren't going to waste your time expecting more. And no, he is NOT going to change his mind. That's not the way it works especially if he has told you this up front. Knowledge is power so use that knowledge to your best advantage!

2. You move on as you continue to date other people if you are looking for a relationship. This particular guy has made it clear that he is NOT the guy that you are looking for for something more serious if that is what you want. That is the best thing he could have done for you really in his current state!

You may not think so now but that is the truth.

That means that the man you want to be with and who wants to be with you is still out there. As you continue to live your life, get out, have some fun and meet other people you will eventually meet a guy who you like and are compatible with and who feels this same about YOU! That is how a real relationship, the kind that you want starts!

So don't worry about the man who says that he is not ready for a relationship with you now. That is not really a huge issue in the grand scheme of things. There are way too many other men out there for you to be focused on what this particular one wants.

What about what YOU want?

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Get Him To Commit With An Ultimatum?

Marry me or else...How many times have you heard stories of women trying to get him to commit by telling him that he needs to make a decision and choose to marry her or she is gone.

Most of us women think that this approach makes sense. But, this really puts a lot of pressure on your boyfriend. In most cases it will drive him away and you won't get what you are hoping for.

If you have been in a relationship for a very long time, or you are not in your twenties anymore you may feel like the clock is ticking. This is something that is truly understandable. Who wants to stay single forever?

Plus you may be wondering if you are wasting valuable time that could be spent on someone else who would be willing to propose. Why should you wait and be patient if in the end he is never going to 'pop the question'.

One thing is for sure, a threat like this can kill a relationship and scare your boyfriend off for good. This kind of threat is a lot for a man to take on.

You need to find out a way to gently move him in the direction of asking you that question. You can get him to commit, but it has to be done right. What I mean is you don't want to manipulate, or force a proposal.

True love and a happy marriage has to start with an honest beginning. Yes you may have to learn some little ways to help him head in the direction of a marriage proposal. But you want it to be authentic and true.

When is it okay to give an ultimatum?

Well, it is okay if you are confident in your position. Are you truly ready for whatever answer you may get? If you say "now or never" and he says "never" are you ready to move on.

To stay in a relationship after you have given one or many ultimatums to your boyfriend is just not a good idea. You will have given up your credibility and any leverage you may have had. The playing field is no longer level.

Remember, you want to be in a relationship and marriage that is wanted by both of you. Ultimatums will ultimately end the relationship. You want your marriage to last. If he is the "one" then learn how to nudge him properly and things will fall into place.

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What You MUST Know to Win a Guy Over

How many times have you wanted to win a guy over and then questioned yourself as to whether you would be someone he would be interested in? Even more so, how many times have you doubted he would be because you aren't pretty or sexy enough? Well then...have I got a secret for you!

While looks alone may spark the interest in the guy you want to win over, they are not the key to capturing his heart and captivating his attention!

Do you want to know what is? How about this...It's your personality! No joke!

But you know what? That's not even all of it. It's actually everything included in the entire package that makes up YOU! It's your sense of humor, your intelligence, your passion, and more.

Need some more examples of traits that will help you win a guy over? How about these:

Independence - A man wants a woman who can be independent. Now we may not be talking warrior princess independent, but a woman who is okay being on her own. She can be self-reliant when need be and he doesn't need to take care of her.

Self-Confidence - A man appreciates women who are confident in themselves. He is strongly attracted to women who see themselves as beautiful inside and out and worthy of being loved. Just be careful to not let your ego get the best of you because acting like you're "all that" can prove to be a big turn-off for a guy as well.

Happy - Is there really anything more attractive than a woman who is genuine, truly happy, and really cares about herself? And she shows it in how she takes care of and carries herself physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Men don't think so. In fact, seeing that attribute in a woman will automatically draw them to her like a bee to honey.

If it helps makes more sense you can liken this "package" concept to the game of golf.

How?

Well, think of it like this. Let's say you play 18 holes of golf on a par 4 course and you get a score of 82. That's an excellent score, but guess what...that score even includes a 9 stroke mark that was needed at the 14th hole. Meaning, when it comes to your game, it's not the one hole that counts...it's simply the total score. So, what you may lack in looks, you definitely more than make up for in all the other areas that really count when it comes to winning a guy over.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the guy you want to win over sees the overall beauty in the package...that package is You!

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I Want Him To Commit To Me! What Should I Do Now?

You are really happy to be dating a wonderful guy. But now, you hope to bring the relationship to the next level. You are ready to commit and you want him to commit to you too. Unfortunately, you are not very sure if he is willing to do so.

Are you trying to figure out how to win a man's loyalty? Without a doubt, commitment can be a very emotional issue in a relationship. Nine out of ten women are happy to commit when they fall in love. However, some men simply flee when they see this word.

So how can you make him commit to the relationship?

Unfortunately, there is no way you can force a person to do something he does not want to do. But don't worry! There is still hope!

Although you cannot control what he does, you can always control what you do. First, you need to let him know clearly that what you are looking for is a committed relationship. Don't try to give him a subtle hint. Most men are clueless and they probably won't catch the hint. Some men may even pretend not to catch it.

During the early stages of your relationship, make sure you don't sleep with him!

Please do not get the wrong idea. Withholding sex is not meant to be a strategy to make him commit. Instead, it is a way to gain his respect for you. It is also a good way to tell him that you are looking for a more serious relationship.

Men are definitely looking at different criteria when it comes to a one night stand and a serious relationship. For a one night stand, men are looking for women who are easy to get to bed. For a serious relationship, men are looking for women who are harder to get.

No matter how much you like a guy, never sleep with him on the first date. If you slept with him on the very first date, he may think that this is what you do every time even if it is not true. You certainly don't want to give him this impression if you are looking for a committed relationship.

Men Are Clueless

As mentioned above, men are clueless. Therefore, it is important to be direct. If you want to be in a committed relationship with him, just tell him about it. Let him know your feelings.

Men don't like to play the guessing game. He doesn't want to guess what you are thinking. By telling him about your feelings, he will appreciate it. If he is a man worthy of your love, he will commit. If he doesn't want to commit, he is probably not the right man for you anyway. This can be a good thing. At least, you can stop wasting time dating a man who will never be in a serious relationship with you.

Is The Man In Your Life Confusing You?

Is the man in your life sending you mixed signals? Is he hot one moment and cold the next? Is he giving off vibes that he wants to have a relationship with you but the next minute you think you are going crazy? Well, welcome to the world of men who do not know what they really want. You may feel that you are on a roller coaster ride with the amount of times that you find yourself going up and down with their emotions. One minute he is telling you that he cares about you and that he has feelings for you. The next minute he is acting as if he can't get away from you fast enough. You are now left wondering what you did wrong.

With all the confused feelings building up inside of you, you feel as if you are losing your mind. You may even be in love with this person, but they are not giving you any concrete notions of what they want or desire from you and the relationship. If you are in love with him it hurts even more when he is not being straight with you. He may call you all the time then one day the phone calls starts to come in sporadically. It can leave you more than confused. Now you are bewildered. Men like these are not necessarily playing a game. Rather, they are confused in their heads and they wouldn't even know how to write their feelings down on paper if they were asked to. No one would blame you if you decide to put an end to the roller coaster ride. You deserve a stable life, not one that is always out of sorts. He needs to get his life together before he comes into your life and confuse you.

Granted, there maybe many reasons why this man is giving mixed signals. Maybe he really wants to end it but doesn't know how. You don't need someone in your life who cannot be honest with you. You need someone in your life that is going to be honest and open about their feelings for you. Living in perpetual confusion is not a healthy place to be. He should honestly let you know that he no longer wants to be with you and give you the opportunity to move on with your life. Sometimes his motives for not letting you go can also be a very selfish one. He does not want you but he doesn't want you going to anyone else either. Regardless of his motives, you should always be the one directing you life. Never subconsciously or consciously invite people into your life who would want to wreak havoc on your feelings.

There will come a time when you are no longer willing to put up with his indecisiveness. It is now time for you to come off that roller-coaster ride that you are on. It can be pointed out that you went on that ride willingly with him. While that maybe so, when you love someone you are willing to be patient and work with that individual. But after awhile it is understandable if you have had enough. The other individual is not making any decisive moves to be with you. You are now the one that has to control of your life and decide where you want to go and what you want to do. Having someone put your life in disarray is not acceptable, you can do that on your own. Maybe you need to walk away in order for the other person to make up their minds. Sometimes when people are creating havoc in your lives it is because you are right there with them. The best way to regain leadership over your life is to remove yourself from the one that is causing you confusion. Maybe you are also confused, but two confused individuals can't be unconfused together. You will only add twice the confusion to your lives. So you would need to be the one to initiate the separation of your lives so that you can figure out what it is you desire for yourself and to regain sanity in your life.

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Relationship Problems - What To Learn From Friendzone

In the 2011 MTV television series, Friendzone, each episode depicted two young, unmarried, best friends. One of the friends wanted to move out of the "friend zone" and into a romantic relationship. When the one friend proposed this to the other friend on a fake blind date, they were rejected more frequently than not. It shows that a romantic relationship takes much more than friendship to develop. It takes work to develop a relationship between a couple, and it takes even more work to keep the relationship healthy and free of problems over time. In this article, we will explore some of the causes for and solutions to relationship problems.

We can learn a lot about relationship problems by looking more closely at the Friendzone experiences. In each episode, it appears that the friend who wanted to move out of the friend zone surprised the other friend with their request and had been nervous about it beforehand. They could have signaled their interest in other ways instead of just behaving as a "best friend and suddenly announcing their wish to the other friend. The friend might have had more success much earlier by trying subtle tactics, such as holding hands at a movie, and attempting to gauge the reaction of the other friend. Poor communications between friend, or couples, often lead to relationship problems. Both partners should utilize their communication skills, both verbal and non-verbal, to avoid relationship problems.

A necessary component in a romantic relationship is a mutual attraction between two people. While difficult to explore in a television series on MTV, sexual inactivity is another cause of relationship problems.

In each Friendzone episode the one friend betrayed the trust of the other friend by first pretending to go on a blind date with someone else, and then surprised the other friend by telling them that they were the blind date. A television script defect, perhaps, but lack of trust between couples is another source of relationship problems.

A very important issue in a couple's relationship, even between friends with benefits, is money. While not explored in the Friendzone series, finance can become a serious relationship problem. One of the best ways to work on this problem together is to develop and stick to a budget.

The key to a successful relationship between couples is to understand some of the underlying cause of relationship problems and to work together to avoid and solve them.

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Sabbath, the Perfect Seventh Day

The Hebrew word translated 'rested or cease' is a form of shabath, and it is from this root word that the Sabbath gets its meaning. The account in Genesis 2 indicates that God had completed His work. The Hebrew language is clear and unambiguous in its intent.

However, Christ Jesus introduced the sense that, 'It is a day for man, and not man for the day.' He explained to those not understanding its intent and purpose 'learn of me...and find rest for your souls'. The writer to the Hebrews adds, 'For we who have believed DO enter,' ending the need for self-righteous acts.

To Christ Jesus it is positive and beneficial, not the oppressive burden some religious leaders had made of the Sabbath in His day. Notice His choice of words. Not something just for Israel; but for all humanity--and celebration wasn't a meaningless practice forced on people to bring hardship and difficulty trying to prove their compliance. Jesus introduced it 'as of God'. The invitation is for all to enter this freedom and experience. It is the same presence Jesus entered and remains.

Smith's Bible Dictionarysummarizes, 'Thus the spirit of that day was joy, refreshment and mercy, arising from remembrance of God's goodness as Creator and as the Deliverer from bondage... Each day the people... give to their children that instruction in the truths recalled to memory by the day, which is so repeatedly enjoined as the duty of parents; it was ' not only in the sanctuary', but 'in all their dwellings.' (1884).

Lacking in Spiritual maturity, people are ever in danger of hardening their heart, of coming short and falling away. In the Gospel, encountering Christ Jesus is everything needed for a full life of Joy, Peace, and eternal, satisfying strength; strength acquired through necessary 'calm' in the Father. The cure for all failures, feebleness, and the preservative from all danger and disease is the knowledge of the higher truth--the loving comfort of the heavenly sanctuary which is open and into which all can enter. The day of trying to prove forgiveness and acceptance by doing ended at the Day of Mercy and the Day of Grace. Daily, every day, peacefulness is at hand.

The temptation is to live out of personal resources, fearfully ending up in exhausting piety struggles. We all need physical rejuvenation, but that is not what the writer to the Hebrews means when he says 'There remains, then, a release for the people of God from their own works, just as God did from His'. People then, can take comfort in the sufficient vital restoration of God. Talking of the coming of Christ, Isaiah states, 'this is...wherewith ye may cause the weary... the refreshing; yet they would not hear'.

This 'Eternal Spirit' is for all, even while living in the rigors of life. The past codes of behavior now elevate beyond external Pharisaic controls to morally progressive, quiet, liberating Spirit Comfort for the soul. Refocusing individual desires begins byforgetting what lies behind and urgently, intentionally practicing ongoing Spirit behaviors: longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faithfulness, meekness, and self-control. Focus on one thing: forget the past; press forward earnestly desiring, with a willing firm resolve, to enter constant, perpetual quietness. God opened the door and Christ Jesus offers entrance into His Father's Refuge.

The Scriptures teach us that in the death and resurrection of Christ Jesus the believer is delivered from legalism and its threat of punishment. Beyond legalism and fear of being wrong is freedom and complete assurance of being 'right' with God. Jesus completely satisfied the ceremonial laws on 'Old Testament human righteous' compliance with God.

Faith substance becomes the whole experience of life now and forever. Observances erupt in continual celebration acknowledging the day of a 'dispensation' of rest for the spirit and soul, God's grace-gift, replacing earning by self effort. Not I, but Christ working in and through a believer who receives His gift.

The disciples first encountered this 'new day of rest' in Christ Jesus, the day following His resurrection, when He appeared to them. It certainly became a day of remembrance, celebration and worship for His followers; true Joy and Peace.

Prayer: Father in Heaven I believe in my mind and accept in my heart the forgiveness delivered to me in Christ Jesus. I believe no effort on my part puts me in right relationship with you. Daily I celebrate your comforting presence within me. Thank you for coming to satisfy what the law required, just because of your unconditional love--your want to favor me with rest for my soul, even while the storms of life rage around me. I want to come back home to 'your' Fatherhood. Amen

Keith Gaebel, 'Being Godly in an Ungodly World' ©2012

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How to Make Him Commit To Me? 3 Simple Tips You Can Use Immediately

How do I make him commit to the relationship? This is a topic that makes many women helpless.

Are you feeling helpless too?

Perhaps, you are currently dating that special someone. So far, everything is going well, except for the fact that he is not committed to you yet.

Well, don't worry!

When it comes to relationships and commitment issues, most problems can be solved when you have the right solutions.

I have a lot of tips that I can share with you, but for the purpose of this article, I will just share with you 3 simple tips that you can use immediately.

Warning! Misconceptions About Men!

Before sharing those 3 tips with you, it is important to point out some misconceptions about men.

Most women fail to make a man commit simply because they are not aware of those misconceptions.

First, you must understand that making a man commit is not all about physical attraction and sex. A relationship build on the foundation of physical attraction and sex is only as brittle as glass. Most likely, your boyfriend will eventually lose interest and initiate a break up. In fact, he may even lose his respect for you. Therefore, if you are looking for commitment, do not focus on the outside. I know it may sound a little bit cliché. But at the end of the day, in order to make him fall deeply in love with you, you need to focus on the inside. Men are hardwired to fall for women with a pretty face. However, that is only going to work on the short term. In the long run, it is still the inner beauty that is going to make the relationship last. With that said, let us continue with the 3 simple tips that you can start applying to your relationship.

Tip 1: Learn How to Admire Him

Most women do not understand men. They do not know that men crave admiration from their women, just like women crave appreciation from their men. So what can you start doing today to show him that you admire him? Well, it is simple! Just tell him!

For example, if he plays the guitar well, just tell him how much you enjoy it. Of course, make sure you really enjoy it. Sincerity is really important.

Tip 2: Smile More Often

Believe it or not, a smile is one of the most powerful weapons a woman can use to capture a man's heart.

Don't believe me? You can always conduct a quick experiment.

Just try smiling at a man walking past you. See whether he will smile back at you. I am going bet that there is at least a 90% chance that the man will smile back at you.

Tip 3: Be More Obvious

I am going to tell you another secret about men.

Most men are clueless!

Most men cannot understand what women really want. So if you are interested in him and you want him to commit to you, you need to be more obvious.

Don't try to send him a subtle hint and expect him to catch it fast. Most of the time, he won't.

The Love of Faithful Friends

It was a beautiful summer day in July when Jan sat on her couch looking back on her childhood days, which was filled with events and memories. This was a period of her life she always reflected on whenever she was dismayed. With a twist of laughter she welcomed the warm and fuzzy feelings it ushered in, to overshadow the pain and disappointment she was enduring as she thumbed through her bible, looking for relative scriptures to share with her friends George and Pat, who were having a turbulent relationship.

Jan was experiencing moment of sadness at the idea of her friends' potential separation. Her thoughts were racing out of control as she sat there searching for the scriptures. Jan and Pat, who were in their late forties, grew up in a community located in Bay Shore, Long Island, New York. They were best friends since they were kids and were married to two other childhood best friends, Tim Miller and George Lucas.

After enjoying 25 years of her friends' marriage, annual anniversaries, two baby showers which she organized, christening and birthdays, she was torn apart with the notion of them going their separate ways because of George unfaithfulness. Worse of all, she was petrified at the mere thought of having to share such disdainful and pathetic news with their two children, Petra age 24 and Peter 22, who were away at Harvard's University, pursuing their careers in law and medicine.

While lying there absorbed in her thoughts, her husband Tim yelled from the kitchen "Darling, what time are we going over to George house"? Choked with remorse Jan responded, "In a moment honey, right now I am really worried about those two. George is almost fifty and still wouldn't change; now Pat is threatening to leave".

Tim sauntered back from the kitchen, hovered over his wife and gave her a peck on the cheek, complimenting her effort to restore their friends' marriage. He gently scooped her out of the couch, swirled her around and thanked God for their love and commitment towards each other.

A few minutes later, they left their home on their way to their friends' home. On arrival, Pat was fussing with George about his disloyalty towards their marriage. However, Jan tried to change the atmosphere as she embraced her friend with the promise, that everything would be ok.

Tim hollered out to George, "Hi buddy what's up, nice day for a barbecue, let's fire up the pit and have some fun". George, who was slouched across the couch, casually said, "That sounds good bro, only if we can have some peace in this place".

Jan, who was on a mission to help her friends said, "Hey guys, we need to have a discussion about your domestic issue and call a truce, or there would be no fun here today. First thing on the agenda is prayer; we need God's divine intervention, so your marriage could be healed".

After praying, Jan found two scriptures: John 10:10:- "The thief comes to steal, kill and destroy; but Jesus came to give us life in abundance". Proverbs 14:34:- "Righteousness exalts a nation, while sin is a reproach to the people".

She pointed out the fact that the enemy is a destructive force with a mission to steal our joy, kill our hope and destroy our potentials but Jesus came to destroy all his diabolical intentions so believers may live a life of victory and abundance. She mentioned the world as a place of riotous living, where unrighteousness is a common and acceptable practice in society, while immorality and fleshly desires are waging war against love, smiting it down and smothering its flame with hatred.

George who was listening quite attentively interjected, "That is why we have the churches; there is always help and handouts from them in times of need."

Tim lashed out, "The churches! Umm! They are becoming more powerless daily". "Among the flock of God there sit ravenous wolves disguised as sheep. There is a continual degeneration of the church. Values of Christian living are deteriorating, morality is taking a rapid nose dive, and the rate of adultery is skyrocketing, while the church has lesser impact on the world. Many pastors portray behaviors that are questionable in reference to what the word of God says. Some leaders are involved in many sacrilegious acts and have become proud and boastful, seeking their own glory rather than that of God".

Agreeing with Tim, Jan added, "It is so pathetic when these people continue in their sinful ways, while justifying their actions as common human weaknesses as they convince themselves that they are still in fellowship with Christ".

Jan emphasized on the fact that many leaders are so poor in spirit, that they cannot counsel those who are experiencing domestic problems. Some, because of self-centeredness, stop believing the words of the Holy Scripture. Then as their blinded minds become impenetrable to the light of Christ, they become more deeply obsessed with various immoral conducts. Finally, God has no other choice but to abandon them to intensified moral decadence. Now the church is hardly a place of rescue for suffering Christians.

Jan reminded George, as the head of the home, he ought to realize that to whom he yield himself servant to obey, he becomes the servants of, whether it is sin unto death or obedience unto righteousness (Romans 6:16). His allegiance should be to serve God and to bring his household under the umbrella of God's righteousness, instead of practicing infidelity.

As the husband, he needed to spend time with his wife, praying and seeking God, making acquaintance with Him, so peace could be bestowed on their household, as they delight themselves in Him, praying successfully and making established decrees regarding the desires of their hearts. (Job 22:21-28). Then they can proceed to teach the same principles to their children, so they may pass them on as legacy to their children, which it may continue to all their descendants.

Pat had a look of disillusion on her face and tears were welling up in her eyes. She hopelessly said, "George spends most of his spare time with his new found love, he does not have any time for me, especially with the children away, he hardly ever stays at home. When I go to church there is no comfort there, so I stopped going. Nobody cares about the other person's problems, like me there were many disappointed followers in the body of Christ who needed to be rescued. We have had our shares of troubles and heartaches, quotas of dark and dismal days, yet there were no one to help".

Then with a quizzical look on her face, she questioned, "Why God allows these false prophets and deceitful workers to constantly worm their way into the body of Christ, where they dwell comfortably unnoticed, as they transform themselves as angels of light, boldly compromising the infallible word of God"?

Jan hugged her friend as she encouraged her saying, "Honey, there are still believers who are designated beacons to channel the lost and struggling souls ashore. God has appointed me to be yours today and I will make sure you find your way to the peace and happiness you deserve in this marriage.

George, with a spirit of conviction admitted his marriage was failing, then pinpointed that Pat was one of those beacons whom the Lord had appointed to lead his family to a better life but somewhere things got muddled up, then there were daily bickering which gradually increased as time elapsed. Instead of addressing the issue, he allowed their squabbling to drive him into the arms of another woman. He blamed himself for the breakdown in communication and for hurting his wife

With this admittance Tim interjected, "George, as your best friend, I am encouraging you to always seek heavenly guidance when faced with any problem. God is more than able, if you would only trust Him. Lusting after flesh would only lure you into horrible pits of destruction. You could have easily lost your family after almost 3 decades of invaluable bonding. You have two well-mannered industrious children whom you are very proud of and vice versa. How do you think they would have reacted when faced with such dilemma while in school? It is our duty to call upon God in times of distress. He is always available at our beck and call but we must seek Him first in all things; be committed to him and to our relationships and be affirmative in our attitude. My dear friend, it is to your benefit if you pray unceasingly and meditate daily on things that are proper, authentic, impartial, unblemished, exquisite, and of good report, providing you find virtue and praise in them. Keep your mind focus, or the enemy will come in like a flood and destroy all you have worked hard to accomplish".

Suddenly, the spirit of benevolence overshadowed the entire atmosphere, transforming it into one of peace and love as Tim was talking to his friend. George had never witnessed Tim in such demeanor. He was fully persuaded that he had just heard from and angel. His body was tingling with fear and there occurred changes in his mindset, which compelled him to recommit to his relationship with Pat.

He boyishly shifted across to her side, embraced her, asked her forgiveness and promised from then on, he would seek God's help to change his lustful ways and to improve their marriage. It was an immaculate scene of love and reconciliation

Suddenly, Tim with his mind still set on having fun, hollered out, "come on guys, time to fire up the pit, and don't let a good day go to waste. Girls, get the meat together, let's throw it on the grill. Today we will have some fun; it's a day of accomplishment, one we would never forget, so let us celebrate."

The two couples opened out their umbrellas on the deck; brought out the meat, condiments, drinks and everything they needed; then started their party.

It was a moment of joy and laughter as they reminisced on their adolescence experiences with their parents whom they believed were the best mentors. They rehashed their school days encounters with other peers, the influence some teachers had on their lives and the fun they had with neighbors. The atmosphere became a historical memoire, with each person expressing their joy, satisfaction, pains and regrets of their childhood lives. They proudly shared the experiences that propelled them to the peak of their success and the many problems they encountered during their upward voyage.

Their party lasted for hours; it was very lively and exhilarating as God's four children intermingled with each other, sharing their love and precious memories. At the end, they held hands, prayed, embraced and blessed each other, and then Jan and Tim left for home, rejoicing in the amazing works of God.

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How To Keep a Guy Interested And Get Him To Commit To You

Do you want to learn how to keep a guy interested? Or, more importantly, how to get him to commit? If your answer is yes then you need advice on how to keep a man in your life forever. Furthermore, you need to learn how to make your man practically worship the ground you walk on! Right?

Well here's great news... Women have much more power over men than they often realize. It's True!

However many women are unaware of how to tap into this special skill. Furthermore, women are often unsure how to fully tap into their full potential when it comes to this special ability. But rest assured, you do have a power over men and you can keep a guy interested and in love with you without using tricks or being demanding.

Nope, not in the least! In fact, trying to trick a man, being manipulative or nagging is a surefire way to push a man away from you faster than a lightening bolt can strike! So how to you keep a man instead of pushing him away?

There's a big difference between how to catch a man and how to keep him. However, you may be shocked to learn that what a man really wants is something every woman either has OR can learn! Yep, you don't have to look like Sofia Vergara (Thank God!) to attract and keep a guy in your life.

As a personal side-note, have you ever noticed that beautiful women (say models for example) struggle just as much, or even more so, in relationships? The reason for this is simple; What men want in a woman goes much deeper than skin!

But please don't misunderstand... Knowing that true beauty is only skin deep does NOT mean that a woman should neglect her appearance. A big part of keeping a guy interested is to keep yourself happy and healthy both on the inside AND out.

Furthermore, just as you were first attracted to your guy for how he looked, he was attracted to you for the same reason. In relationships, it's important for couples to "not let themselves go" when it comes to their appearance over the years.

And although looks change for men and women alike over the years, if you have had more than a few relationships fail because a man has lost interest in you (either sexually, emotionally, or both) it may be time to examine why this continues to happen.

It's all to common, for men and women both, to become overly complacent in long-term relationships. This is often when the relationship problems start because of one, or both couples becoming to set in their ways.

If a man becomes bored in a relationship, he may begin to pull away, or even stray from his partner. And it gets worse...When a guy starts to pull away from a woman, sadly, many woman will take the wrong approach.

Very often a woman will plead and beg their man to not leave them. Reacting in this way will only drive a man further from you. So knowing that acting needy, clingy and desperate won't work to keep a guy in your life, what does work?

Two Basic Steps to Keep a Guy:

1. Understand what drives or pushes a man away from you, and
2. Learn EXACTLY what men want in a women and start being that women!

Now please don't misunderstand step two above. What is meant is that you work on becoming the type of woman whom men respect and admire, not to change WHO you are as a unique individual. And if a man, (or anyone for that matter) ever try's to change who you are as a person, run, don't walk, RUN as fast from that person as you can. Seriously!

But, I digress. To improve yourself as a person is always in your best interest, right? And that's exactly what a man wants in a woman. A strong, confident female is very sexy to a man.

How to Get a Man To Commit - ANY Man!

Did you know that there's really not much (if any) difference between learning how to keep a guy interested and in wanting a man to commit to you? If that sounds farfetched, it's really not. Here's why...

Once you understand, and apply, certain tactics you'll uncover the secrets that really work to get a man to do what you want. This includes, if you're wanting, how to get him down on one knee and propose marriage to you.

And best of all, he'll have no idea that you were the one pulling the 'love strings' all along!

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How to Get Your Guy to Propose to You - 3 Things You Must Avoid

Finding the right guy is the first ingredient to a relationship, but keeping him is the glue that holds it together. A trustworthy caring man is the basis for true commitment. Most women dream of finding the right one, getting married having his children and living a happy full-filling life.

It doesn't always happen that way, but it is evident that there are thousands of couples that have went to the chapel and lived the dream. (Well into their 70"s and 80"s) Is there a secret to the perfect marriage that lasts a life-time? Probably not, it just takes time to know each other, their faults, hobbies, interests, and personality.

The longer you are with someone, the better you know them. You don't know someone well enough to get married in six weeks. There are ways to get your guy to propose to you all on his own without tricks or pressure.

1-Always be yourself with no pretenses. Pretending you're something you're not, will cause you disappointment. Your guy will see right through you. He can tell if you're lying, or sincere and trustworthy. Some women put up a facade thinking it will impress their guy, but it just causes him to pull away.

Don't dress like the models in the Glamour magazines because that's not who you are. Always be truthful with him as he can tell by your eyes if you're lying. The truth says a lot and he will respect and trust you as every relationship is built on trust. Trust, respect and caring eventually turn into love.

2-Being impatient is an emotion. We all have it and it causes stress, tenseness and frustration. If you feel this way, he can tell. Some women nudge their guy with hints to get married such as taking him to bridal shops, jewelry shops, couples that are married with children throwing it in his face, making a list of guests for the wedding among other things.

This action will cause him to bolt out the door. So give him the respect and courtesy to ask you in his own way. If he loves you, he will want to marry you but in his own time.

3-Don't get pushy or make threats. Using these tactics will surely cause you to lose your guy. By putting demands on your guy will never get him to propose. Men want to do things in their own way and want to be in control of their own feelings. If you try to push him to the chapel, it will push him out the door.

Ultimatums and threats will cause him to abandon the relationship. Some women threaten their guy by pretending they are seeing someone else or they don't take their calls. Don't do this because it will backfire on you. If you love him, you will give him the time he needs to propose in his own way.

Love is a two-way street. You must put the other person's feelings first to have a good relationship. Putting him first will create a bond and he will love you for it. It shows how much you care.

Listen to your heart and let your feelings guide you to a great start in life with your guy. Don't make the mistakes I have laid out before you if you want to get your guy to propose to you.

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What Men Want From A Relationship And How You Can Get Him To Commit

You can get him to commit to a serious relationship if you know what he wants from a relationship.

What is it that blokes are searching for in a relationship? Many females seem to think that this is the million dollar question, and they can never seem to understand what their men want from them or why men don't seem to want commit. But this idea is totally wrong, and it's just complicating things. In actual fact, the majority of men are very simple creatures, and they just need the same basic fundamentals in every relationship they begin.

Here's what males really want in a relationship:

Men want love. True, you may find that weird, but it's true. Men want to care for a woman, and they want her to love him dearly in return. Lots of women actually find it hard to show their true feelings to their man, and instead come across as if they aren't bothered too much either way. Explain to him how much you care and you'll be amazed how hard he tries to hang onto you.

Men want a girl who is adventurous. Many women can behave snobbish at times, or too unapproachable, and this means that men think they have to be careful near them so that they don't cause offense to them. What they would prefer is a woman with a sense of humor, who isn't too worried to sit there and have fun with his friends.

Men need a girl they can trust. This may seem weird, but just think for a minute. If you caught him flirting with another lady down the pub, wouldn't you be mad? He will feel exactly the same way if you do that. Let's not deny it, just as many girls as men are disloyal and untrustworthy, and so many men are paranoid and get angry easily. So make sure he can rely on you. He will be more open to committing to a relationship if the trust works both ways.

Men want a beautiful woman. While some girls may despair at this, and accuse guys of being shallow, men do have a point. Remember that they are not all insisting on a catwalk model for a girlfriend. What they actually need is a woman who cares for her looks and is always prepared to make an effort. Men want a good-looking girlfriend on their arm. It makes them feel confident.

Men want a lady who knows how to be feminine. This means he wants a woman who is gentle, kind, caring and well mannered. Although girls are quite within their rights to eat too fast, drink beer, burp and fart, this sort of behavior is not at all attractive, and he by no means has to deal with it!

Men want an exciting girl between the sheets. Men, contrary to what you may hear, are not usually that adventurous in bed. The reason for that is, while of course they want to try new things, they feel that the girl might be surprised or disgusted at his fantasies. So why not provide the initiative and do something incredible next time you're in the sack together? He'll adore you for it!

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How to Keep a Guy Interested in a Relationship and Get Him to Say "I Do"

All women in a relationship wonder how to keep their guy interested. Men actually think the same thing, just from a different angle. It starts from the first date. Getting off to a good start from the beginning will keep a guy interested.

The first date is the toughest because you're nervous and you wonder what to say and if you're going to say the wrong thing. You hope he likes you and will ask you out again. All the fear and emotions on a first date are normal.

The First Date is the Best Impression

The best way to handle a first date is to be you. Don't wear low cut blouses or shorts. Wear clothes that give you the appearance of the girl next door type. He is nervous too, but he won't show it because of his masculinity. Most women think men want to see a sexy woman.

It's true that men do like to see a sexy woman but not for his partner or wife. Now that you've been seeing him for awhile, you've built a good relationship with him, but you feel that he isn't into you as much as he should be.

Do You and Your Guy Have Common Interests?

Do you both have much in common? Do you both like animals, sports, dancing or fitness? You need a common ground to keep him interested. Start a conversation with him about things he likes and then casually tell him what you like and give him a chance to respond. Some women talk about everything they want and like, but they don't give their guy a chance to voice his opinion.

Make him feel comfortable with you. Make sure your conversations are not boring. Talk about his job. From my experience, men love to talk about their job. You might even offer to pay for dinner once in awhile.

He probably won't let you, but he will love you for offering. He sees the real you and he likes what he sees. Tell him you don't care where you go to eat, as long as you're with him.

Demands Will Cause Him to Run

Are you demanding all his time when he has other things going on in his life? Do not show jealousy as this can ruin a relationship real quick. Some women try to make their guy jealous by not answering his calls and not seeing him when it's time for a date. They make him think they are turning to someone else.

If he feels threatened, he will end the relationship for good. He wants to make decisions for himself. If you want to keep your guy interested in moving forward with your relationship, you must let him do this all on his own without being manipulated.

Look For His True Self

At first he will want to impress you and usually he does this with financial success. He believes making you think he has loads of money will make you like him better. At that point he doesn't realize he isn't showing his true self. So he shows off his financial success by taking you to fancy restaurants, buying you expensive gifts and sending you flowers.

In time, he is struggling financially trying to keep it up. He gets scared and wants to bail out. He doesn't want you to think he's not financially successful because it will hurt his pride and he will get caught lying. He sets his own trap unintentionally and you won't even know it, unless you are honed in to his actions.

By following this advice, you will notice how much he will appreciate and love you. In time he will pop the question all on his own without you being pushy, and before you know it you will get him to say "I Do".

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When You Want Him to Change - Reasons Why He Doesn't Propose

Your man, like everyone else in the world, just wants to be loved and accepted for who he is. It's a basic human desire. But if he doesn't get a chance to be who HE is, or every conversation is about how he needs to change, how do you think that makes him feel?

Men who marry -- get married because they want to be with that one woman because of the way she makes him feel about himself. How he feels when he's around her -- is what makes him want to commit.

Ask yourself if you really love him for who he is -- or if you just want to get married because your clock's ticking. If you love him, but want to change him, this ultimately comes through in the unspoken communication that we all share -- especially with those we are closest to. A man proposes because he wants to be with the ONE woman who makes him feel special, makes him feel wanted, makes him feel loved -- for who he is -- and even IN SPITE of who he is.

If you're on a high and mighty agenda to change him, to make him into something he's not -- while he may go along with the program for a while, eventually, he'll get the real message -- that he isn't good enough as he is -- and leave.

Imagine yourself in his shoes, just for a minute. Ask yourself, would you want to be with a man who constantly finds fault with who you are, what you do, and how you behave? Answer honestly. OK, then, why are you trying to make him change? Were you really attracted to him or was it something else -- something he could do for you? Be honest with yourself.

You may think that you need to change him from commitment-phobic to marriage-ready, but forcing a man to feel something he is not feeling only ends up in disaster. It's important for him to come to you on his own and forcing him because *YOU* need him to marry you right now, right away, just won't work. Remember -- an ultimatum is really a veiled threat.

Don't give him an ultimatum unless you are ready for the truth. When you force a man with an ultimatum -- you may not like the results.

But if you REALLY love him and want to marry him, because you want to be with him -- then you need to learn how to be with him -- which in all honesty is simply being who you really are, the woman he fell in love with in the first place.

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Are You Ready For a Relationship?

You think you are ready to find the love of your life and settle down. But are you really ready? Is your need to settle down just because your friends are all in relationships and moving towards more family orientated lives, or maybe because you are feeling pressure from your relatives to find someone before it's too late? How do you really know when you are ready for a relationship?

4 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Getting Into a Relationship

1. Have You Dealt With Past Traumas and Issues?

Have you dealt with and learned from your past relationship issues? If you have not then those issues are probably affecting your current life in some way, and will most likely affect your future relationships in a negative way.

Past relationship issues can include such things as abandonment, abuse, mistrust, and loyalty. If you are not completely sure that you have moved on from these issues, then you need to work on them before you enter into a new relationship. The work you do on these issues, and insights you gain from doing the work, will allow you to enter into a new relationship with a clean slate and a healthier, happier attitude towards relationships.

2. Is Your Self-Esteem Strong?

If you don't love yourself then how can you expect anyone else to love you? You have to have a complete respect and love for yourself before you can get into a relationship and give them the respect and love they deserve.

If you think that getting into a relationship will improve your self-esteem, then you are risking ruining a relationship over hopeful wishes and dependency on someone else. Nobody can make you feel happy about yourself, no matter how hard they try. That is something that you do on your own.

When your partner cannot make you feel good about yourself, they will eventually give up trying, which will cause you to become unhappy, and ultimately, lead to a breakup in the relationship. Make sure that a future partner won't have to make you feel good about yourself by learning how to do it on your own.

3. Do You Have Unresolved Feelings For Someone Else?

You do not want to enter a new relationship with unresolved feelings or issues from a past relationship. Countless relationships are ruined by one partner having feelings for someone from their past or comparing their new partner to someone from the past.

If you have not gotten closure on past relationships, then you risk bringing that baggage into a new relationship. You will most likely judge your new partner according to your old relationship, which is unfair to your new partner, and will most likely cause issues to arise.

4. Do You Know What You Desire in a Relationship?

We all get into relationships for different reasons. If you don't know why you actually want to get into a relationship, then you should take a step back and figure it out.

Is it simply to fill a void or do you desire the companionship of someone else? Do you want to make someone jealous or do you have a healthy desire to share your love and laughter with someone for the rest of your life?

Also, you must know what you expect from a relationship in order to find a partner who fits your expectations. For example, if you do not want to have kids then you cannot just pick any partner to be in a relationship with. Picking a partner who wants kids will surely end in disappointment down the road. You have to know what you desire from a partner in order to pick the right person for you.

By utilizing the above 4 questions, you will be able to really determine why you want a relationship and whether or not you are really ready for one. Doing this will allow you to get into a healthy and lasting relationship when the time is right.

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Successful Relationship Tips - How to Get a Man to Commit

Being in a successful relationship with the right guy is every woman's dream. The problem is that not everyone who desires to have it happens to find it. Reason: Not every man who enters a relationship is willing to take commitments. Now, this article, based on Rori Raye's lessons and personal relationship experiences will give you some tips on how to get a man to commit.

Rori Raye is a trained relationship coach who was able to save her own marriage and now happily living with his husband for more than 2 decades. She wants to share to all other women the secrets to having a successful and happy relationship. Her tips on how to get a man to commit are proven effective by some reviews done by women who were able to read his blogs and book.

Rori Raye's Tips: Get a man to commit

Normally, a woman enjoys the care and affection that her man is giving her not wondering if these moves mean commitment. That is a wrong and immature action. If a man gives a woman so much care, affection and attention, the woman must then wonder what he will do next because these actions that he shows may not always mean he is ready for commitment. If you have been dating for so long exclusively but the man is still not moving forward to the next level which is to commit, you are having a problem.

A letter sender named Jennie wrote to Rori about her experience with his partner for more than 7 years who did not seem to move forward into a commitment. In return, Rori gave her some words on how to get a man to commit. She said that all relationships must move forward-from dating, to exclusively dating, to engagement and then marriage.

One important thing to do to get him to commit is to not attach your whole self, life and time to him. Rori shared a story to Jennie. It is about her friend who stayed with her man for 5 years before he proposed to her. Yes, she stayed with him but was also able to open herself to other men and other things (not related to men) that are important to her. It made her feel more comfortable and became less desperate.

Then, the man, who is now his husband, finally realized that she was whom he wanted to spent his whole life with-- he married her.

Rori Raye also left a thought on how to get a man to commit. She said, "No man should feel like he's the man of your choice, he is the ONE, or that you are just seeing him. Not 'til he is committed."

Commitment is not something to ask for. It is something the man must be willing to offer to the woman he loves. You can speak your truth, you can tell what you feel, but you are not doing it to beg or ask. You are doing it to honor yourself and declare your worth.

Choose the best words you can use to not put pressure to him. You get a man to commit to have the relationship you have always been dreaming of.

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How to Win Your Man - The Real Secret to Getting Him to Want You

The common headlines you'll read in various women's magazines about how to win your man are something like, "10 Tips for the Hottest Sex," "Make Him Want You with These Tricks to do in Bed," "Win His Heart by Being Dirty," and others similar to that. And while these articles make for great bathroom reading material, plus adding a little knowledge that you may not have known, they really aren't the secret to getting him to want you.

Heck, getting a guy to want you doesn't even happen just because you look hot or even because you treat him like many recommend...by being a b^!ch. Granted, looking great and being playfully mean may capture his interest, but the desire will wane over time if the real characteristics he is looking for in you aren't there. In other words, eventually the hormones stop dictating his actions and his feelings soon take over.

The thing is that winning over a guy may start with the little things like being gorgeous, acting cute, playing to his ego, etc., but "sealing the deal" and putting your heel print in his heart requires much more. And it's a lot more than those magazines often allude to.

If you want to know how to win your man, you're going to need to know the REAL secret to getting him to want you. That means it time to put down the magazines and read this...

Once a guy gets past the over-active hormone phase of his attraction to you, then it comes down to how he actually feels about you. And no matter how good you are in bed or how nice you are to him, that won't get him to feel what he needs to feel in order for you to win him over.

To know how to win your man, it is important to first understand how he thinks. Then the secret is to take the right action to help support that thought process and turn it into your key to success in making him want you.

The three main factors in how a man thinks are:

• He has a sense of purpose in life and he needs to find what that sense of purpose is - If you want to get him to want you, then help him find that purpose. You wouldn't want to necessarily tell him what to do and how to do it, but more so guide him on a path that will help him make his own discovery of that purpose.


• He doesn't want to be with a woman who will drag him down or hold him back - Support and encourage your man to achieve his goals and purpose. If he feels like you're there to help him instead of hinder him, not only will gladly want you along for the journey, he'll enthusiastically invite you to come along for the ride.


• Get to know the real him - Your man wants you to want to get to know the real him. He wants you to genuinely care for who he really is; not for whom you want him to be, what he can do for you, or the like. It's a fine line to get there, but you'll want to take right action and make all of the right moves that show him that the real him is what you do care about.

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