How to Get a Man to Commit - Secrets Every Woman Should Know

You've been going out with your boyfriend for several months on a casual basis, and now, you'd like a firmer commitment - maybe not marriage, just yet, but a simple commitment to each other that you'll be exclusive. The problem is, most guys don't think like we do, and for them, commitment isn't often a priority: "We're having fun, right? Why not let things stay just as they are? No rush."

Be careful

If you think you're ready for commitment, it's possible to get your guy to commit - sometimes. Be careful with this, though. If your guy's not committing, there may be deeper problems you need to address. Is he a "player" who strings a lot of ladies along? Are you simply one of many he wants to date? If the answer to either of those questions is "yes," you may want to rethink your own attitude about commitment to him. You might be in for a lot of heartache if you try to pursue things.

Getting ready for commitment

If it's simply that he's not "in a rush" and there are no underlying problems, commitment may be worth pursuing. Here's how:

· Get to know each other well

If you're ready to go for commitment, make sure you know each other well enough that this is actually something that's realistic. Remember, love is not a "game," no matter how much romantic comedies and reality TV might say otherwise.

Get to know each other well; be willing to listen to your boyfriend, find out who he is and what he really wants. If you can tell early in the relationship that he's ready for a serious relationship even before you actually make a commitment to each other, it's much more likely that you and he will be on the same page when the time to commit comes. And again, remember that if he's just a "player," in that his main focus is to date as many women as possible, don't even try to envision commitment. Find someone else who is more suitable to you.

· Practice authenticity: Be yourselves

The worst thing you can do when you start out in a relationship is to fake who you are. You can of course focus on being the best you can be and still be authentic, but you shouldn't try to fake your values, what you like, or how you live to "catch" a boyfriend. When your boyfriend finds out who you really are, he'll be disillusioned, and may even feel like he's been lied to.

By the same token, encourage your boyfriend to be himself, too, so that when the time for commitment comes, you both really know just whom you're committing to.

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